She sat across from me in session, hands tucked between her knees, eyes steady but soft.And then she said something I’ll never forget: “He said he was sorry, and I know he meant it… but I still feel the weight. I thought it would disappear when I heard the words.” That moment stayed with me, […]
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🌿 Before we begin… If you’ve been in therapy—or even just thinking about starting—you’ve probably had moments where you’ve wondered:“Am I doing this right?” or “Why doesn’t it feel better yet?” We want to pause and speak directly to that feeling.This is for you. We often imagine healing as this clear, upward path.Like one day,
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Hey sis, If you’re reading this, I want you to take a deep breath — right here, right now. Because the truth is… you carry a lot. You’ve likely been carrying it for a long time. Not just your own responsibilities, but the weight of everyone else’s expectations, the unspoken rules, the need to hold
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You’re doing all the things—showing up for work, for family, for others. But inside, you might feel like you’re holding your breath… waiting for life to finally feel safe, steady, or peaceful. Maybe you’re tired of reacting to things in ways you don’t fully understand. Maybe you’re wondering, “Why do I still feel this
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Exercise releases feel-good endorphins, according to the Mayo Clinic. Besides impacting mental health, daily exercise protects against chronic disease and can help increase your life span. Yet, less than a quarter of us exercise daily. So why do we resist something so good for us? That first step—getting started—may be the biggest obstacle. Here are
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Are you troubled by a pattern of behavior that does not serve you? There might be a painful experience in your past driving your reactions. What is little “t” trauma? According to Psychology Today, trauma is a person’s emotional response to a terrible event where their life is threatened. Victims of rape, child abuse, and
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Are you making wellness a priority in the new year but don’t know where to start? Below is a list of practices to fill your wellness tool kit and build resiliency this year. But first, let’s talk about what it means to be well and how you can achieve it. What is wellness? Wellness—feeling good
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Have you ever felt like you couldn’t solve a problem? Did you hope it would disappear if you ignored it? I have, and problems don’t disappear. They lurk under the surface. I woke up from anesthesia after a routine procedure last year and kept repeating that I had 500 problems. I did not. But burying
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Trauma is a psychic wound. Every person experiences difficult situations during their lifetime, but for some, the emotional response to the experience can leave a long-lasting psychic wound. That wound is trauma. A traumatic event can change the way you think. In 2003, working as a contract archaeologist, a drill crushed my arm on an
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I walked 500 miles through Spain to process my grief. My father is dead—a fact that has lurked in the background of nearly every moment of my life for the last two years. At times, it would sneak up on me and shake me to the core. Most of the time, I was overwhelmed by
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